Dec 12, 2012

Exploring Fear of Success

Today someone wrote to me with this question:

I was wondering if you have any insights and/or resources on my fear of being successful?

Here's my response to her.

Ahhhh so you've found that particular bugaboo now...fear of success. 

The insights are inside you my dear...keep pondering, reflecting, asking yourself questions about your experience with success in the past. Here are a few entry questions to play with:

  • When have you enjoyed and embraced success? When have you hidden, discounted, or felt uncomfortable? 
  • Play with a mind-map perhaps. Use lots of colours...see what emerges.
  • Think about influential people in your life and how they handle or handled success...what did you absorb from that? What do you want to keep, what do you want to let go of? 
  • What would you want to teach your daughter about being successful?
  • Imagine the future...what do you see happening as you become successful, as you continue to live successfully? What does this say about your beliefs? What might you want to consider re-framing, adjusting? What might be simply something to accept and enjoy...even look forward to watching unfold?
Let me know how it goes. 

Is this a fear you've ever experienced?  What would you have suggested...any insights and/or resources to share with us?

Breathe Big!


Nov 22, 2012

Another New Beginning

Wishes. Ideas. Decisions. Plans. Unknowns. Uncertainty. Possibility.

First steps. Deep breaths.

I begin again. Back on the path of what I love to do: Write. Coach. Facilitate.

When I read back on the journey I've been on these past few years ... I am inspired by what I've learned. I want to reap more as the journey continues. I want to witness and savour it through this process of reflecting and writing. 

So I re-establish this blog, accepting the gaps. It will continue to be a place to share my perspective on change and transition and uncertainty LIFE really! Insights and tools pondered and gleaned from the work I co-create with others, from the resources I find along the way, and from reflections of my own experiences. I hope you'll be inspired to add your own voice here too.

I dedicate these musings to anyone who is in the midst of a change or a transition themselves...

     be it a coming together or a coming apart; 

     be it with a job, a community or a person; 
     be it a fear faced or a dream realized; 
     be it a time of learning or unlearning or rediscovering.  

     Let's figure out more about how to be with whatever is.

Let's Live Aligned with curiosity, wonder and purpose!

Breathe Big!